Things around you seem to escalate very quickly. Things go from 0 to 60 in an instant. When something doesn’t go your way, you watch yourself escalate from what would be a minor issue for most to a level of anger and irritation that you can’t seem to manage.
You have a hard time pulling yourself back together once you’ve gone over the edge, and it’s really starting to impact the tone of your home, school, work, and your relationships with others.
The level of tension both in and surrounding you is nearly unbearable. You worry because you are extremely distressed, but you also feel terrible that others have to deal with the fallout of your behaviors. You wish that you could wave a magic wand and restore a sense of calm to your life, but you can’t seem to imagine how that life can ever be possible the way things are going.
Lately, you wish you could trust yourself in your relationships. You truly want to help yourself feel less angry, but you now recognize that your issues go deeper than you can manage on your own.
So here you are, ready to reach out to see if therapy can help restore a sense of order and replace the chaos.
A lot of the time, you feel so overwhelmed by the emotions inside of you that you take your anger out on everyone else.
You truly want to find relief from the internal pressure that seems to make your emotions so ready to erupt. But you have no idea what else to do to help yourself overcome your highly volatile temperament. You never imagined it would get to this level. And you certainly didn’t expect you’d need to reach out for profession help.
Signs You Are Struggling with Anger
- Behavioral: you find yourself clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth, having a headache, stomach ache, or rapid heart rate
- Cognitive: you think others are out to get you or that things are always unfair
- Mood: you often feel irritated, guilty, sad, or resentful
When You Seek Support for Anger and Irritability from the Center for Anxiety and Behavior Management
- You will learn to identify triggering situations and thoughts associated with anger
- You will learn how to frame thoughts in ways that make you less angry or no longer angry
- You will learn anger control strategies so that you will not later regret your actions
- You will learn to tolerate the feeling of anger and irritability
- You will learn that intense emotions will pass if you just “ride the wave”
The Anger and Irritability Counseling Process
Therapy for adults dealing with Anger and Irritability is intended to help you overcome the obstacles getting in your way of healthy relationships, social functioning, and school and work success as well as to help you feel better in your own skin. Together, you and your therapist will work to understand the root of the symptoms and to effectively utilize the most current and powerful scientifically-backed, evidence-based therapies to tackle your anger and irritability when it arises.
Therapy for those with anger and irritability issues is focused on uncovering the underlying beliefs and emotions leading to the emotional overload. Sessions will help you learn proven techniques that can help you to more effectively manage the overwhelming feelings and respond more positively to such emotions through your behavioral choices and symptom management.
Here’s what to expect:
FIRST CONTACT: Free phone consult
Prior to beginning treatment with us, we want to make sure that we are a good fit for your needs. For this reason, we offer a free 15-minute initial phone consult to learn more about your current circumstances and to determine if we are the best resource for you. Assuming that we are a good match, you would then set up an intake session.
WEEK ONE: Intake
During this initial 90-minute session, the assigned therapist will meet with you to gather background information on you and to fill out rating scales to provide an assessment baseline upon which to build our treatment plan and goals.
WEEK TWO: Feedback Session
Now that we’ve thoroughly assessed your needs, we will meet with you to discuss the diagnoses, to identify starting goals, and to provide education on the apparent causes and factors which are leading to your symptoms.
WEEK THREE and Beyond: Anger & Irritability Therapy Sessions
At this point, you will attend regular weekly therapy sessions. A typical course of treatment calls for 12 to 16 weeks of therapy sessions. However, your therapist may determine you need to come more or less frequently, depending upon your presenting symptoms.
Together, in each subsequent session, you and your therapist will use evidenced-based psychotherapy models to help you learn to identify and address the roots of your anger. This typically includes the integration of techniques from Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Mindfulness-Based CBT, or other evidence-based modalities.
Each session is designed to help you dive deep into the underlying causes of your anger and irritability. Together, you and your therapist will identify the thoughts and feelings that heighten your anger and frustration symptoms, leading to irritability. You will also spend significant time exploring your negative coping patterns and developing more helpful strategies for managing the overwhelming feelings.
Your therapist will help you to learn positive coping skills for emotion regulation so that you can better ride the waves of emotion that are causing you distress. Lastly, you’ll learn how to gain control of your responses through the use of more helpful replacement behaviors.
TERMINATION: The Final Sessions
As you get closer to your therapy goals, you and your therapist will develop a plan for successfully transitioning into a life without weekly therapy. This often means moving sessions from once a week to every other week, to monthly sessions, or to finishing out services completely. Your therapist also works with you to develop a relapse prevention plan at this time. Our goal is for you to be able to retain what you have worked on together and to implement all you have learned in therapy outside of sessions in your everyday life.
More About The Center for Anxiety and Behavior Management
As a team of licensed therapists, we are experts at teaching you to make the behavioral choices that get you closer to your goals.
We work from an evidence-based perspective. This means that our job is to help you understand your struggles and provide solutions proven to be very effective. Negative thoughts, distressing feelings, and unhelpful behaviors don’t have to be part of your life, and anger therapy at The Center for Anxiety and Behavior Management is about changing the way you think, recognizing how your beliefs are holding you back, becoming informed, seeing the world more accurately, and engaging in behaviors that you won’t regret later.
We make it our mission to help you regain control of your life by providing effective strategies supported by science. We are dedicated to being on top of the most recent knowledge and helping you solve problems based on what the research says is effective. It is our passion to educate you on what is and isn’t working in your life so that you can get back in the driver’s seat and take yourself where you want to go.
Who Benefits Most from Anger and Irritability Counseling
Therapy for adults with anger and irritability management issues is best for those who recognize that their behaviors are negatively affecting their relationships with others, their own happiness, and their success in life.
Often, anger is a secondary emotion, one that helps to cover up the real root of the issues inside the heart. Anger often masks sadness, hurt, or confusion and masquerades as control and power when you are feeling the exact opposite inside. Anger and Irritability Counseling will help you to discover the emotional root of the problem, so that you can better learn to deal with your feelings, self-soothe, and therefore, better interact with others.
You will benefit from Anger and Irritability Counseling if:
- You are ready to learn how to better manage your emotions
- You are motivated to get control over emotional tirades
- You can commit to weekly sessions with the therapist
- You are willing to practice helpful techniques outside of sessions
- You are willing to collaborate with your therapist
There are certain situations where you might not be ready for counseling sessions with us.
These situations include, but are not limited to:
- When you do not have time to attend sessions on a weekly basis
- When someone else wants you to come, but you’re not ready to fully engage in the process
- When you are not ready to practice the techniques provided in therapy
- When you cannot commit to the process of therapy for the full course of treatment
- When you want a quick fix
If you are currently experiencing any of these issues, we can provide you with appropriate referrals for your level of care.
What Does Anger Therapy Cost?
Anger counseling is a fee-for-service program. As such, we do not take insurance, but we do provide paperwork that you can submit to your insurance company for out-of-network benefits and potential reimbursement.
When and Where are the Counseling Session?
Our office is conveniently located in Chester, NJ, 07930 next to the New Toys with Love building.
Sessions are currently held by appointment only Monday – Saturday.
Your Next Steps
Your family absolutely can stop having to walk on eggshells around you. You will learn the strategies you need to effectively manage your overwhelming emotions.
Knowing how much you’re struggling with anger and irritability, it may seem like household peace is a long way off, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t proven, scientific ways to get you the help that you need to be better able to control outbursts and negative reactions. You just need the support of a caring professional while you figure it out.
You will start to feel more in control of your responses to the frustrations of life. And you’ll also be able to engage better with others and feel better about yourself.
Ultimately, you will learn to self-manage your emotions in a better way. We can help.
Call 908-914-2624 to schedule your 15-minute phone consult to see if we’re a good fit for your anger and irritability treatment needs today!